Worldly Wiseman and Evangelist Have a Conversation

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If you have not watched the conversation between Dennis Prager and Pastor Alistair Begg discussing religion, good works, faith, and morality, it is definitely refreshing and depressing at the same time. During the course of the event, Dennis Prager from Prager U online placed a heavy emphasis on being a morally good person through good works and obeying The Ten commandments, as well being justified by said works. Meanwhile, Pastor Begg plays three, heavenly notes over and over again – fulfillment of the law through Jesus Christ our Lord, justification by the works of Christ alone, and the divine person of Christ. For the whole discussion, one Scottish battle rhythm was played. Christ. Christ. Christ!

While I enjoyed the conversation, the sad part of it all was how resolute Dennis Prager was about his own convictions. I am thankful for some of the videos he and his team puts out online addressing moral, economic, and political issues facing America, but as he said, thousands of Christians proselytize him all the time. And he’s okay with that. At one point, he said he can appreciate the beauty of the atonement. But, nevertheless, is it clear that the potency and efficacy of that atonement has not yet taking place in his heart. And for this, I lament.

Worldly Wiseman Points to Mt. Sinai

But this conversation between Alistair and Dennis reminds me of two characters in John Bunyan’s classic, Pilgrims Progress. If Evangelist and Worldly Wiseman were to meet together, I can imagine this is how the conversation would unfold (but with a little more worldlywiseman2rebuke from Evangelist if you understand the literature of those days). If you remember the story, it was Worldly Wiseman who turned Christian away from the narrow path to the cross, where he can find true relief from the burden on his back (sin). And instead, he offered him to live in the town of Morality, where Mr. Legality and Civility will show him how to live happily and safely from Christian perils. And where the neighbors are honest and respectable, and will ease him of his burden. But while Worldly Wiseman offered Christian liberty, he himself was a slave of corruption. Because he was directing him to the foot of the hill where such men live. It was called Mt Sinai. Which, coincidentally enough, Dennis Prager explicitly says he wants to point many to.

It was only after a matter of time that the Evangelist, who started Christian on the narrow way, found him at Mt Sinai where the threatenings and thunderings of that hill left Him paralyzed and trembling with fear. After Evangelist questioned Christian about how he was deceived by Worldly Wiseman, Christian was left helpless and didn’t know what to do, seeing that he was deceived into thinking that he could be justified by the Law of God. Then, Evangelist emphatically warned:

“See that you do not refuse to listen to the One who speaks from Heaven, ‘The just shall live by faithbut if any man draws back, I will not be pleased with him.’ Christian, you are the man who is running into this misery; you have begun to reject the counsel of the Most High God, and to draw back from the way of peace—even to the hazard of your soul’s perdition!” (emphasis mine)

Jesus Christ, Not Sinai

Although Evangelist and Worldly Wiseman in the story never meet, we meet men of this sort all the time. Many of them are pastors and members within our churches. Dennis Prager, unfortunately, is just doing it in a bolder and popular platform. But what Dennis is doing is what many American Christians do daily. And that is, abandoning sound, Christ exalting, sovereign grace preaching, and trading it in for political conservatism and mere morality. Also, like Dennis, many have put down their spiritual armor and the sword of God’s word, and have traded it in for theonomic warfare using the carnal weapons of activism. In other words, instead of heralding gospel centered doctrines like justification by faith alone with the imputation of Christ’s righteousness, penal substitutionary atonement, the sufficiency/inerrancy of the Scriptures, monergistic regeneration with the evidences that accompany salvation, we are have sullied and sold away the soul-saving doctrine for 30 silver coins of legalism, formalism, and political morality.  Having a form of godliness, we have been denying the power of the gospel to change hearts and minds, and instead, are placing our hope in the fallen consciences of men and lawmakers who only have temporary sway in the minds of the people, if any at all.

I’m glad Alistair Begg repeatedly trumpets the work and person of Christ in this discussion. I pray for all those in the audience, Dennis Prager, and all who watch this, would see the true beauty and benefit of our salvation in Christ alone, and not in keeping the moral law or by adhering to our fallen morals.

– Until we go home


The Dog and the Shadow (Aesop’s Fables w/ Christian Applications #7)

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A Dog was crossing a bridge over a lake with a piece of flesh in his mouth, and saw his own shadow in the water and took it for that of another dog. In the silhouette, the piece of meat in its mouth seemed to be double his own in size. He immediately let go of his own piece, and fiercely attacked the fictitious dog to get the larger piece from him. But in the process, he lost two things: That which he grasped for in the water, because it was a shadow, and his own portion, because the stream swept it away.

Application #1: What a curse covetousness is! If we could gather all the stories concerning the loss many have already experienced due to this malady, all human resources would be exhausted in the writing of it. Yet, godly contentment is the greatest enemy to covetousness (1 Timothy 6:6). If we would discipline ourselves to be content with what God has placed in our mouths, we would not be so eager to chase the world’s shadows and risk losing what we already have.

Application #2: Even as you read this, many in the world have lost their rational and moral sense, and have cast aside the succulent meant of Christian truth and wisdom in order to gain the shadowy and illusive meats of vain philosophies. They pursue what they perceive to be a better ideology that will justify their immoral actions, but in the process lose their right of way and eventually their souls (Romans 1:21-22). 

6 Things I Learned by Taking Two Months Off Social Media


It is hard to believe that taking time away from social media would be so anathema to Christians today. Some have the best of intentions of using it of course. Because for most, seeing posts and pictures are a source of social connection and encouragement. Even family and friends may tease and push back on you, as if you are leaving this earth! You would think you are walking away from the faith or something by the way some folks act online. And God forbid you should shut down your social media for good (may it never be!). I always feel sorry for the martyr that even would suggest such a thing publicly!

In any case, my wife and I, at the beginning of November in 2018, decided to take a break from social media together. We both noticed some areas that social media was interfering in our lives, and wanted to cut ties in order to prioritize relationships. At first, it was easy and exciting. After about the third week though, we began to see some of the large gaps that social media wedged itself into. With that being said, here are six things that I learned.

  1. I had more time to spend with my wife. This was one of our biggest reasons for getting off. I often felt justified with my use of time because I was commenting and answering inboxes from friends and strangers, meanwhile calling it “ministry.” But I still was neglecting time, and attention (very important), with my wife. Sure, forms of Christian ministry can be accomplished online. No harm there. But when you find yourself and your spouse bickering more, being irritated at each other, or even angry at one another over trivial things, meanwhile giving more attention to your phone rather than a meaningful and intimate conversation at the table with your family (or even friends), it’s time for a break.
  2. My attention span was improved. There are plenty of resources online, even from social media engineers themselves, that can prove what I’m about to say. Social media affects your attention span. I experienced this first hand. It also affects your cognitive thinking skills and how you process information. From trying to finish books and complete projects, to having a simple conversation with my wife and friends, I caught myself often thinking about something else, and even becoming bored with the task or conversation at hand too quickly. (Side thought: Perhaps this may be a contributing factor to why we often feel bored during our pastor’s sermons. Hmmm…) What we don’t realize is that social media does have a psychological (and spiritual) impact on us all. We may deny it, but if you take a long break, you’ll immediately understand what I’m talking about. My hope is that you don’t have to take a break to notice.
  3. I was able to see who my important relationships were. This one is a tough pill to swallow. There are many on our friends list who we enjoy and perhaps have had long time relationships with. But social media has changed the way we interact and stay in contact with them, has it not? Instead of picking up a phone or writing to one another, we just simply scroll through a feed, click like on the post, maybe comment once in a while, and move on to the next thing. This isn’t evil. A short post might provoke a deeper conversation online or on the phone. But more often than not, we’ve depended on social media to gauge and judge what is going on in one another’s lives rather than purposefully taking the time to meet over lunch, at a dinner table, or even going out together on some random outing. More than this though, we may quickly discover who really is interested in a reciprocal and abiding friendship. Because with no social media to keep track of your life, the meaningful relationships begin to surface. And the results may be panful.
  4. I was free from false obligation. Some call it FOMO (fear of missing out). Others call this “just keeping up with the times.” But I’m not surprised so many suffer from so much anxiety these days. The feeling that I should know something because someone I follow posted it, or needing to keep up with the latest controversy because a ministry I support and love is caught up in it, or having to constantly be ready to answer a comment because I or someone else I know is involved in an important discussion, all dissipated like smoke once I was off. I know longer felt obligated to know any of that stuff, or any other unnecessary drama, that didn’t directly pertain to my life and ministry. I don’t think we realize how many things we entangle ourselves with on social media that truly doesn’t require our involvement, nor will impact us in any meaningful way. There’s nothing wrong with stating your position on something online, researching the latest updates on important topics, or using social media to further the gospel of Christ and sound doctrine. But how much emotional investment are you wasting simply because you subtly feel “obligated” to do so? And how much of it is essentially just reading gossip?
    • Part B of this feeling of obligation is something I like to call pseudo accountability. There is this false idea that somehow you are spiritually accountable to all those on your friends list (if you even personally know some of them). Depending on how many you have, you may have developed a subtle need for approval, unbeknownst to you. Of course, many on my friends list would say that they care about honoring the LORD more than man. But what we all don’t realize is that we, as social beings, enjoy approval from others within the circles we most identify with. That is what the like button is for. That’s why Facebook won’t introduce a dislike button, but instead has chosen other emoticons to display how you may feel about a particular post. This isn’t some psychological bibble-babble that cannot be substantiated. The kind of approval we receive from those on our friends list (or particular persons on our friends list) triggers the dopamine in our brains, which is typically the chemical released when we have that feeling of reward. That’s one of the reasons why social media is addicting. And whether we realize it or not, what begins to happen is that we engage social media in such a way that causes us to want that approval. The result is that we begin to feel accountable to people that have no real impact on our lives.
  5. I had plenty of time for more important things. This one is like number 1, but a little more specific. Honey-do-lists, job responsibilities, family time, reading, writing, discipleship, evangelism, other ministry opportunities, going out to lunch with friends, particular church functions, and long, attentive, and meaningful conversations, are all some of the many things I discovered I was truly neglecting. I can remember what life was like before social media was popular. And I can remember all the time I spent reading copious amounts of Scripture, or my favorite books, doing ministry, going out with friends, working on special projects at work, etc., without feeling rushed, out of time, or mentally drained. I almost forgot what it was like to partake of all these things in a meaningful and attentive way, without mental distraction! And guess what, it isn’t just me. And it isn’t simply an issue of will-power, intellectual strength, or time management. Even former Facebook executive, Chamath Palihapitiya, mentions some of the dangers with social media. Because of this, he doesn’t even allow his own children to have it.
  6. Finally, though not exhaustively, although most importantly, my intimate time with God improved. I have kind of touched on this already in an indirect way, but this most definitely deserves its own category. With all the things we could be serving God in, one thing that should never be replaced, neglected, or diminished is our own personal time with our Lord Jesus. Whether it is reading His word or personal time in prayer, meditating and communicating with God will be, and often is, pushed aside when we are heavily engaged in social media. Why? Well, because all the other responsibilities that we must accomplish have been neglected already. And because those things must be done, and we now have little time to accomplish them, things like reading Scripture and prayer require too much time and mental strength we don’t have. It’s no wonder why we are tired in prayer, and can’t pay attention when we read Scripture. It’s no wonder why we feel pseudo-accountability, are often anxious, depressed, irritable, and feel all kinds of emotional distress. Not to say that humans have never felt these things before social media. But when we consider the unprofitable amount of time we spend on it these days rather than with the LORD, let us not be surprised when the feeling of being distant from God is exacerbated. I pray that this distant feeling and conviction would grip us more and more than any other feeling so as to return to our first love, and restore the biblical priorities in our lives.

Now that I’m back on social media as of the New Year, my interactions haven’t been the same. I am posting and engaging, but it is different. I am able to break away if I need to. Put the phone away a lot easier when it is time to converse with someone. I’m not as distracted.  I scroll less. Desire to converse more with friends more. And it has been edifying. This isn’t my first time taking a break from social media, but it was nice taking a two month break with a purposeful goal in mind to restore the disciplines and relationships in my life where they should be. If I need another break, I’ll be ready to take it. But I pray others will read this and will emboldened to do the same.

– Until we go home.

The Ants and the Grasshopper (Aesop’s Fables w/ Christian Applications #6)


The Ants were spending a beautiful winter’s day drying grain that they collected in the summertime. A Grasshopper, dying from hunger, passed by and earnestly begged for a little food. The Ants asked him, “Why did you not store up food for yourself during the summer?’ He replied, “I didn’t have enough time. I passed the time away in singing.” They then chided him and said, “If you were foolish enough to waste time and sing all summer, you must dance supperless into your bedroom in the winter.”

Application #1: Proverbs 6:6 commands us to “Go to the ant, O sluggard!” Look and consider how they work diligently to sustain themselves so that in times of winter, they are well taken care of. Many of us, in times of trouble, may find ourselves like this Grasshopper for no other reason than we wasted our time upon leisure and recreation when we should have been diligently preparing for the future. Whether economically or spiritually, if we ignore or neglect to discern and make provision for ourselves or our family, it will be no wonder when our poverty comes upon us suddenly and we find ourselves hungry (Supported Reading: Prov 13:4; 20:4).

Application #2: It’s inevitable that spiritual winters will come. Not every season in our lives will be noticeably joyous. Many of us may even have to face wintery years. But when times of peace and sunshine come, don’t squander it! Meditate and treasure up for yourselves rich truths from God’s word. Do not forsake God when prosperity occurs, as is the propensity for many to do (Deut. 6:12; Prov 30:8-9). Graze and gather wheat from the luxurious field of God’s word and store up in your heart Scriptures great and small (Psalm 119:11). So that when the winter comes again, you do not end up dying for lack of knowledge (Prov 10:14).

No Children (Part 2) – The Bad News & Good News


In my last blog post I desired to encourage the men out there who may be a co-struggler in the burden for childlessness. At that point in my life, it seemed like all the treatments weren’t getting any where. Well, last week our medical providers advised that we stop treatments, and that we try something different. Before I get to that part, I think it is pertinent to share how the news impacted me.

The Bad News

At first, I didn’t think anything of it. At some point, you just get numb to disappointment and you sort of expect it. But then, as my day progressed, there were moments where I was deeply saddened. At work, my expression of grief was limited. Also, when I got home, it just seemed like my wife and I were a bit too busy to express our feelings about the whole thing. Privately though, I cried out to God. And my wife and I eventually talked, but I wondered if this is it? Was this the end of the road? Thankfully, it still isn’t. But it didn’t take away from the sting that there is a possibility that we won’t have biological children. But here is some good news.

A Baby Girl

Since I last wrote my article, we have been blessed with a beautiful foster child. She has been a delight to have in our home, and she is a stark reminder that we should expect God to bless us often, but not in a way we would often expect. She came right on the heels of a season of discouragement. And the funny thing is, we were actually praying that God would give us a baby girl! Since this little one has been delivered into our care, she has allowed us to express love and nurturing that we desire to express for our own biological children. So that’s one praiseworthy providence of God.

Untraditional IVF*

Another good thing is that our doctor revealed to us some alternate means that might suit our convictions to have children. He first asked if we were willing to do traditional IVF?* We expressed our disagreement to fertilizing eggs with left over embryos possibly being killed. Thankfully, he understood. I don’t know if he was a believer, but he was very accommodating. Hard to find these days. Nevertheless, he told us about a newer method of IVF that would basically freeze a certain amount of unfertilized eggs, and when we are ready, we can get them fertilized in a lab and implanted that day. We don’t have all the details yet, but I remember the doctor letting us know that this could be a cheaper option than traditional IVF. And we don’t have to compromise our convictions! We’re still looking at thousands to spend, but we know that if this is a possibility, God’s providence will make a way. If not, we will remain content with His will for us.

Embryo Adoption

But there is one more option I’d like to share that perhaps not many know about. This one can be a little different from what people are used to, but embryo adoption is an alternative that has been catching attention. Basically, it is adopting a fertilized egg(s) and having them implanted in the womb. In essence, as you would adopt a born child, you are doing so for a little one that you can carry in the womb. I know, it sounds strange. When I first heard about this, I wasn’t sure how to feel about it. Nevertheless, a child is possibly rescued from being destroyed in a lab. This is indeed a testimony of how far we have come in our scientific endeavors that this is even a possibility. But if your conscience is not at all clear or informed about this, or any other alternative, I would not suggest embracing it until you have solidified your convictions on it.

Why Me?

As we continue to plod along after 14 years of waiting to birth our own children, it makes me wonder how many other Christian men are finding it hard to trust the LORD in this kind of trial. It is expected for women to experience grief and sorrow over fertility, but I won’t make the mistake to think that men don’t process this issue in any way. Whether it is the sorrow we feel vicariously through our spouse, or how we ourselves feel (or both), it is my prayer that we men will hunt down contentment in Christ. I know what it is like sitting in a church pew, on your couch, or wherever you may be to yourself and your thoughts, thinking about why *I* have to be the one? Why my wife? Why me? And this is not an easy question. But if we have given eternal life, and we know Christ, we have been given the greatest gift we will ever receive.

The Good News

Christ is a great comforter and High Priest who sympathizes with our weakness and human frailty (Hebrews 4:26). He knows we are burdened and saddened by this. He has been there in every doctor’s appointment, in every miscarriage, in every negative pregnancy test, and has been extremely gracious and faithful to provide encouragement and blessings that we needed (not wanted) whenever the time came. So while I understand the discouragement, disappointment, frustration, and sometimes anger, we can feel inside as men about all of this. Remember that God has been infinitely gracious and loving toward you through His gospel, and your salvation. He has been gracious, and will continue to be gracious by giving you more than you can ask or think (Ephesians 3:20), and giving you far less than what your iniquity deserves (Psalm 103:10). This is our hope – Jesus Christ. He is the anchor to our soul (Hebrews 6:9), and the captain of our salvation (Hebrews 2:10). Trust him even when you’re disillusioned. Through the pain of childlessness do not let any root of bitterness take hold upon your soul (Hebrews 12:15). God has promised to fulfill His will and glorify Himself using you. Yes, even in this. And as men, we don’t have to necessarily “man up” by sucking it up or pretending it to be numb to it. But by embracing God’s will and leading our wives, and perhaps other brothers and sisters, in prayer and faith to trust God’s sovereignty.

Grieve if you need to. Call out in bewilderment to God, and truly express your grief through your own heart’s psalm. But while you do it, remember God’s goodness toward you. Don’t ever forget it. While the lashing whip of childlessness cracks against your soul, I pray the truth of the gospel and the healing balm of the Spirit will forever be your great and marvelous consolation.

“Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God our Father, who loved us and gave us eternal comfort and good hope through grace, comfort your hearts and establish them in every good work and word.” – 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

– Until we go home


*(In Vitro Fertilization – this is where number of eggs are fertilized,  and then a certain amount are implanted in the womb. Meanwhile, the rest are frozen or eliminated later on).

** For more information on embryo adoption, you can go here.

Why Getting Caught Watching Porn Is The Best Thing That Can Happen.

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Let’s face it. Pornography is a shameful thing. Most men know it (and women too). But no matter how many times you ask God for forgiveness, and vow never to do it again, you fail again. And one of the reasons why it perpetuates itself in your life is because it is a secret struggle. That’s right. Secret. Most people in your church, at your job, and even in your home don’t know this is sinful problem in your life. And, it is hard for you to talk about it because, well, it’s shameful. You know its wrong. You hate it when you watch it. You feel guilty often for watching it. But guess what? Since no one knows about it, you continue the battle on your own, thinking you can defeat this monumental beast by yourself! And when you do talk about it with others, it is usually spoken about in cryptic form where you kind of mention lust at a glance, without specifics, and without any real plan to confess the poisonous fruit that it is producing in your life. It is because of this, I highly recommend one of two things that should happen if you want to begin the path to liberty. These two are not the end-all-be-all to end pornographic desire, but I guarantee you’ll be moving in the right direction. 1) Get Caught 2) Confess (to your spouse, or a godly and mature saint).

Get Caught

When David desired Bathsheba, he did so in secret. No doubt, David probably thought he was never going to get caught. Sin is just deceitful like that (Ephesians 4:22). And after he had her husband Uriah killed in battle, he probably thought the trouble he got himself into by impregnating Bathsheba was officially buried (pun intended). The Scripture says that God was displeased, and he sent Nathan the prophet to expose his sin (2 Samuel 12:1). It was necessary after exposing David’s sin that the consequences would be listed against him. Then, Nathan says “For you did it secretly, but I will do this thing before all Israel and before the sun” (2 Sam. 12:12). David was busted! And it was a good thing too. Get was being merciful to him by doing so. And David’s reaction to this was perfect. He says, “I have sinned against the LORD.” He later pens Psalm 51 in what is probably the best, written example of genuine confession and godly sorrow that leads to repentance in all of the Psalms.

All that to say this. I pray that God will have mercy on you, and you get caught! Not trying to sound mean or harsh, but it’s the best thing for you. Really! If you think for one second that keeping this porn addiction a secret and taking it on by yourself is something you can handle, you’re deceived. And sin, no matter what it is, loves to hide. It likes to keep things secret. That’s where it draws its strength. In the nuturing environment of darkness. John 3:20 states that those that do evil don’t come to light so that their deeds aren’t exposed. Proverbs 9:17 has the adulterous women telling us that bread eaten in secret is pleasurable. Paul cries out to us in Ephesians 5:11-14 to take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them with light because shameful to even mention some of those things done in darkness. The point being, while God can and does use shame to cause you repent, shame is often a dungeon that sin uses to keep people from confession and true repentance. Someone walking in on you while watching porn, discovering your internet history, asking you directly if you watch pornography, or whatever the circumstances that causes you to be exposed is the BEST thing that can happen to you! And I say this with as much love and earnestness I can muster. If you don’t get busted now, your cries for freedom when you’re lying in the pool of your own tears, after once again failing to avoid the one thing that has this immense grip on your life, will grow weaker. In other words, while your desire to turn away from this sin may be genuine, the fact that you are attempting conquer this sin in the very same, secretive environment where it thrives spells certain shipwreck of your faith. You will eventually give in. You will lose.

But if getting caught is not something you want God to do to you, you don’t have to wait to expose this sin. There is another option. But before I dive into that, I want to quickly say something that is of the utmost importance.

The Gospel

The bible says that when we are born again, we will hate our sin (Romans 7:15). Do you hate this sin? I mean, truly? 1 John 2:29 states that one of the ways we know if we are truly born again is that we love to practice righteousness in our life because we are born again. Do you desire to love God and live holy before Him? One of the promises that we are given as Christians is that Jesus’ victory in taking the punishment for our sin is that He destroyed the power that sin has over our lives, and that He that started a good work in you will finish it (Philippians 1:6). Do you believe that? Do you truly believe that Jesus took God’s wrath and satisfied the demands of justice that are against us by enduring a painful and agonizing death so that we can be free from sin? And be given a new nature that loves Him and hates pornography? And that only through the life-giving power of the Holy Spirit who causes you to repent and trust Jesus for salvation that you are granted the gift of everlasting life? The gospel is the power of God unto salvation for all who believe (Romans 1:16)! For our sake, Christ became sin, who knew no sin, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God (2 Corinthians 5:21)!  If you don’t truly believe this, this battle is lost even before it has begun. Getting caught and confessing your sins to someone else in the hopes of modifying your behavior is a dead gospel. It is in the life-changing work of the gospel of Jesus Christ where true freedom is found. I pray that if you have never experienced the reality of knowing Christ, and the power of His resurrection to justify you and change your sinful nature, that you would go before Him today broken and contrite, so that you might confess and repent of your sins to Him alone who has the power to forgive sins and reconcile you to Himself.


If you’re married, I wouldn’t wait another second to tell your spouse about this sin in your life. Be open and honest with her/him. Don’t criticize them if they get angry, frustrated, or disappointed. Accept the failure. Admit the defeat. That’s what David did when he was confronted about his sin. And if this isn’t the first time you’ve told them, tell them again. Ask them to periodically check in on you. Give them every password. Don’t be alone with any electronic device. Maybe take a long break away from the internet, television, and radio. Pray together. Read together. Seek godly counsel together. And most importantly, communicate! There are a multitude of gates and parameters you both can place in your lives to fortify yourselves against this horrendous sin. But the central and most important key is to not keep this a secret! Even when it is a known issue. Keep bringing it up! Not naggingly, but out of genuine desire to extinguish this idolatrous fire. And if you’re honest with yourself, God sees you every time you watch it. The eyes of the Lord are everywhere, watching the evil and the good (Proverbs 15:3). And “no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account” (Hebrews 4:13). So while I am exhorting you to abstain from secrecy, remember that if you’re not worried about God and how he feels about pornography, you’re probably not going to give much care to being ashamed and open about it to your spouse.

And if you’re not married, then you must find a godly saint(s) that you trust will pray for you, check in on you, and will provoke you to holiness. Tell them about your failure to be holy. Let them know your desire to no longer fight this alone. Hopefully one of the person(s) you trust is an elder or mature counselor in the church that can provide godly wisdom and a course of action. But whoever you choose, also remember that they are not a suitable substitute for genuine conviction from the Holy Spirit. The idea of an “accountability partner” is not what I’m proposing here. This sin is a heart issue. Period! If someone wants to watch porn bad enough, they will find a way. This is only a means for you to expose this sin in the hopes that you can deprive it of the strength that it so powerfully gains in secret. Just like the most disgusting of creatures and fungus tend to thrive in the darkest and dampest areas, so does this sin fester and thrive. And it isn’t until the area is uncovered, exposed, and aired out do the creatures scatter and the fungus dies.


If you are a man, you know the internal battle we must fight daily against lust. But now this isn’t just a man thing. Women are not facing this issue to. And as I already stated, this is a heart issue. So if you want to gain an upper hand, don’t allow this secret sin to flourish any longer in the dark recesses of your heart and on your hard drive. And since we are dealing with the internet here (for the most part), the data is already collected somewhere when you are searching these sites. So nothing is exactly private no matter what the “private search” option says on your phone or desktop. But what we need to remember is that if it God is who we aim to please, then we must go before Him in confession, faith, and repentance in order to overcome this, with a strong follow up by making no provision for the flesh (Romans 13:14). And that we must expose this sin through communion with Christ, gospel-centered fellowship, communicating with our spouses, and availing ourselves of the means of grace God has provided in the Scriptures. My wife and I resolved to take these steps to protect ourselves long ago. By the grace of God, I pray that you will do it in yours.


– Until we go home

No Children – Not Just a Burden for Women


“I’m spotting.” I had no idea how those simple words could pack such an emotional punch. Or how about this one – “It’s negative again.” Maybe you don’t know these words intimately. Maybe your bad news comes in the form of a sigh or disappointed grin as you ride the same nauseating roller coaster again, hoping that this next time is your last. But when you find out you’re not pregnant again, no matter what the package looks like, the contents are the same. And as much as you try to remain optimistic, hopeful, and thankful to God, your heart tends to migrate to the land of doubt, disbelief, and spiritual angst.

If you haven’t figured out by now, I am no stranger to the struggle of wanting children and not being given any. My wife and I have had a few diagnoses, and have accomplished corrective surgeries. We have a known condition that doesn’t make it impossible to have kids, but it does make it harder. We have been trying for 14 years now. We have experienced several miscarriages, including one ectopic pregnancy,  and one chemical pregnancy (that we know of). We have tried medical treatments and other strategies (never IVF though). And the more my wife and I endure doctor’s appointments and medications, the more my heart aches for her. But not only that, what was once something that burdened me vicariously through my wife has become mine to bear.

As a young believer, there were times I would cry out to God and ask why He hasn’t given us children. Was it my sin? Is this only supposed to last a few years? Should I expect to have children at a really old age like Sarah and Abraham? These questions came in waves. Now that I’m older, the tides have risen high enough in my soul where I now feel the depths of sorrow that my wife has probably felt all along. For some men, this kind of feeling may be foreign, or even short lived. But I know there are other men out there who may be facing this burden more immensely and are reluctant to share. I want to be the first to say, you’re not alone. I want everyone to know that, as men, we do deal with these kinds of emotions when it comes to children. It doesn’t mean we are less of a man if we do. And we should endeavor to seek the LORD and the prayers of our fellow man as we renew our minds through this kind of trial. We would be less of a [godly] man if we didn’t.

One thing that God has taught me in all this is to remain thankful for what He has given me, and not what He has not. I intend to write more details about some Scriptures and life lessons God has brought to my wife and I because of this prohibition to have children, but this initial blog is meant to bring out the fact that God has given me sooooooo much despite the one desire that feels like a throbbing, stubbed toe within my spirit. It might be painful, and it has the propensity to attract all of my attention when I’m not faithfully exercising thanksgiving unto God. However, it is also not the god of my life. It is a genuine desire, no doubt. And it has become an even greater desire as time passes. But when I look upon the gift(s) of my wonderful marriage, my occupation, my health, my finances, and above all, my eternal salvation, to not cry out “thank you!” to my God, who has taken me out of darkness and has adopted me as His child, would be more of curse to my soul than not having children.

This short blog may not sound encouraging, but I wanted the men out there who are struggling with the burden of not having any children to know that God has blessed you with so many things already. I know what it is like to want children. Bad! I share this burden with you. And whether you have been dealing with this burden for a few years or decades, I am placing my hand on your shoulder, asking you to pray and share with other men you trust your struggle. And while you do that, meditate upon the immeasurable riches of His kindness toward you (Ephesians 4:2-7), knowing that you deserved nothing good except hell, yet He gave the greatest He could give, Himself (Galatians 2:20). And He did so on your behalf so that you could receive something greater than children – fellowship with Him.

-Until we go home

“The Mighty Weakness of John Knox”

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Last week at our church, we had a Reformation Conference and Douglas Bond was the teacher. The lectures were very informative and edifying, especially when he spoke about the French Reformers (like the Huguenots). I hope to have him (Lord willing) appear our podcast in the near future to discuss the French Reformers. Pray for that.

It was in the course of that evening that I came across The Mighty Weakness of John Knox written by Bond, edited by Steve Lawson. If there was ever a stack of small books that should encourage your soul concerning the common weakness we all face, and how God’s grace empowers us despite those weaknesses, this should be in the top 5! This book takes the overly divine view we tend to have about our heroes in the faith, specifically here John Knox, and humanizes him in order to highlight the God of John Knox. One of the statements made about John Knox was made by a fellow minister, Thomas Smeaton, who said: “I know not if God ever place a more godly and great spirit in a body so little and frail” (pg 24).  And even though some may portray Knox’s greatest moments in preaching against Roman Catholicism, the fact of the matter is, he was often scared, timid, and even left a room in tears when first called upon to preach. But yet, God inflamed such man to passionately love the glory of God, the salvation of souls, and hate idolatry more than seek to preserve his own life.

Although Knox was a zealous preacher and a thunderous figure, he had many struggles in his lifetime that squeezed the fruitful juices of God’s Spirit out of him. He was targeted by the Roman church, escaped several assassination attempts, lost his wife, was often without sleep, and constantly criticized for his zealous approach to name a few things. But yet, he was a loving shepherd to his people, a minister to the poor, humble prayer warrior, and a fearless preacher when the time came. In reading this book, it seemed obvious to me that many of us, who are often more ready to make excuses about why we can’t be faithful in the most common ways to God, who go on and on about our weakness, would resonate much with Knox. He was but a broken vessel in the hands of his Master.

I benefited tremendously reading about Knox’s weaknesses and how God loves to use men and women who are intimately familiar with their own failings. As Bond stated:

“Knox’s preaching ministry was a microcosm of the mysteries of God’s providence. God called a timid man who trembled in his boots at the thought of preaching and who ran from the room in tears when first called upon to do so. When a man feels in his own strength that he can do something, he tends to not cry out to God in prayer to enable him to do it. He believes he is already capable, so he sees no need to depend on God’s strength. but this was not Knox the preacher. Knox, who never completed seminary, knew that if he was to fulfill his calling as a preacher, he desperately needed God’s power. Weak in terms of physical strength, he turned from himself to find vigor that only comes from God” (pg 65-66) (italics mine)

This information should encourage every home-school mom, deacon, teacher, factory worker, professor, pastor, missionary, widow, single person, public school child, etc., to timidly but ferociously look to God for grace and strength when struggling against ourselves to be faithful witnesses in the world. And to fight our battles on our knees as Knox did, and to trust in the sovereign mercy of Christ to sustain and preserve us even when we are in the midst of what seems to be a losing battle. It is hard to feel in our own person the things that Knox personally faced since we are so far removed from that time frame in history. But the one thing that will always unite us all is that he, like us, needed God’s sustaining mercy in order to be faithful in his day. Who are we to think that God’s hand is too small to sustain such a weak man such as Knox, and yet not do the same for us?

Get your copy of The Mighty Weakness of John Knox and may God heartily encourage you, embolden you, and revive you as you celebrate the God of the Reformation.

-Until we go home

Every Christian Believes Election

Not everyone consciously affirms the doctrine of election. The reasons for this vary and are definitely outside the scope of this particular article. But whether you don’t like it, don’t agree with it, or are simply neutral about it for the time being, predestination and election are concepts in Scripture that every believer will be confronted with. Even if you choose not to deal with it, the unbelieving world still has heard about it, learned it when they were in church as a kid, and/or logically deduces it through the knowledge that God knew before hand that man would fall, and yet still created us. So even if we bury our head in the sand and ignore this, the world will not let us. And, if we have faithful pastors and brethren in Christ who challenge, edify, and provoke us in godliness through the word of God, they won’t let us ignore this topic either.

Although you may hold to a more unique position concerning predestination and election, you will probably sympathize with one of these two views:

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A Christian’s Duty Through The Heralds of Ancient Greece

Whether a elder in the pulpit, a preacher on the street, or a believer seeking to be a faithful witness, we can all glean from this.

In Ancient Greece, heralds had a specific role in the culture with a specific reputation. It is that reputation that I am going to use as illustrative examples  concerning a believer’s/preacher’s duty to spread the gospel. Although we know that the Bible is sufficient for life and godliness, still, illustrations are a powerful tool to help nail the truths deeper into our mind and make plain what is simply less memorable to some. With that said, here are some points that will help us reaffirm our calling as ambassadors and heralds of the gospel. Once again, these points are purely illustrative, not expository. But they nevertheless communicate biblical truth.

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